After the wedding, the bride and groom permanently become one. They start a new life together. Once spinster and bachelor, now husband and wife.
Also, the woman eventually changes her name, wonderful!

As a lady, you might think that you are living in a different world, the Stepford wife should be.
You might as well think that it is not possible to maintain the same level of etiquette and propriety as before. A lot of people think this way. But the truth is, it should not be the story at all.

A woman can still be classy after marriage.
Read along for some tips on how to hold it all together.


Engage in a meaningful career or business that will help you have your own money

This is one of the most important things to do after marriage. Engaging in a meaningful career or business that will help you have your own money, be it in the form of a 9 – 5 or a side hustle, will give you a sense of accomplishment and self-worth.

Yes, it was your decision to get married to your man, but a lot more decisions will be based on your ability to finance the outcome. Money empowers, no matter how little the current of the stream might be.

Financial abuse is a type of domestic violence often meted out on women by their partners.

It is important that you work hard and earn the money that you need. You should not totally depend on your spouse for financial support as it may lead to marital problems in the future.

Your successes have bolstered you to where you are in life.
This is the time to put in more work, and achieve more — an inspiring mum, a financially buoyant aunty, and a respected wife.


Still be all about you ( 55% of the time)

The key to maintaining your femininity after marriage is to take care of yourself.

You need to take care of your fashion style, carriage, and personal hygiene.

This article is about the lady. But a secret is that most husbands get scared that their spouse would hurriedly turn into their mothers.

Though men do not fancy a hot mini-skirt wearing wife, yet they dislike an all-day wrapper tying wife.

Men crave for an Okonjo Iweala in a Kim Kardashian body. Convince yours truly, that you are different by switching gears in a classy way.

Learn how to properly apply makeup that suits. You are married now. The slaying period is over, but it is still not time to dumb it down. This is very important for the first few months when you are getting used to your new life as a married woman, just after your honeymoon. Prefer thinner makeup overlays and keep the tone subtle.

Spice up your wardrobe with the right set of underwear. Always remember that awesome packaging enhances the appeal of the product.

In all you do, ensure to cater for your hair. Visit a good beauty saloon when you can. Other times, do it yourself at home.

Sound mental health is the product of every other area of you being managed well.


Develop an emergency portfolio

When you fail to plan, you plan to fail.

An emergency portfolio is a collection of unique decisions that you will take at various breaking points, in the course of your married life.

A dull pen is better than a sharp mind.

Whatever you commit to paper, stays forever.

Marriage is a wonderful institution, but life is full of surprises.

Grab your sheet of paper and pen. Itemize and define situations that will likely take you off guard, then state what your response would be, for each definition.

Stories litter the internet. Stories of where lovely married ladies endured spousal abuse till they kicked the bucket. Another tale has it that a beautiful lady stabbed her husband to death simply because she had a hunch about him cheating.

These are extreme cases that could have been managed differently.

Setting up an emergency portfolio will ensure that you are armed to decisively deal with some of the following occurrences:

◦ What will you do when the actions of an in-law threaten the peace in your home?

◦ What will you do should you lose your spouse to death?

◦ What will you do to handle an unintended pregnancy?

◦ What will you do when your income far exceeds your expenses?

◦ What will you do should your husband decide to take a second wife?

◦ What will you do when an old flame turns up?

Vet, discuss, and document your answers.
Your answers will be your guiding principles.
These answers will guide you when your emotions blur out your senses.


Conclusion

So, if you find yourself wondering, will I ever maintain my level of etiquette and propriety after marriage?

Know that you can transition into a brighter star when you follow the ideas discussed above. In addition, above all, continually seek God for His guidance in all things.

Do not fret at all.

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